EGO – PROTECTOR AND USURPER.

EGO – PROTECTOR AND USURPER.

It has your best interests at heart and seeks to protect you from DANGER!
It has been your closest ally from the beginning. At first it was your main supporter but slowly slowly it became deeply embedded.
In its mission to look after you at all costs it steals way too much power and becomes addicted to its influence.
It usurps your attention until it runs the show.

Most people don’t even know its there. But you do. 

By this stage it really doesn’t matter whether you are happy, miserable, successful, a murderer or a politician. It’s not the end result, or the attainment, that matters. It is the addictive mechanism of mind, the ‘pain body’ that matters. As long as that is constantly alive and being fed, nothing else is important. You may think it is, but underneath your stories is the ego protector and usurper going about their business, hidden and obsessed.

Waking Up’ is seeing the mechanism and, either suddenly or gradually, reducing its power and influence to that of a kitten, rather than an out of control maniac.
Just seeing it over and over and over again, and giving it no more power than you would a dream, thats how it dissolves.

You don’t kill it. I wouldn’t engage with it on that level of battle, you are sure to lose. Just seeing it and recognizing it as a protector and usurper is enough. Withdrawing your energy from it until it succumbs and becomes a servant rather than tyrant.
And then you do that over and over again.

And then the world tests you. Because the world is you.
And it will test you in your intimate relationship, your family, kids, your work, driving your car, running errands, being creative, getting sick, dying, everywhere you go it will come with you, constantly showing you the mechanism and inviting you to withdraw power from your own mind.

It is a crazy journey, and you fail over and over.
But what you do when you fail is what matters.

Try it, try it today for the rest of the day.

See where you get pulled into your story, into your righteousness, into judgement, into self negating thoughts and beliefs, into this emphatic being right or wrong, into driving rage, into impatience, into depression and anxiety, into argument. It’s there. It’s always there. It’s your job to see it there and be honest, and disengage its power through the simple act of awareness. That’s all waking up is, the simple act of awareness. Simple yet utterly profound.

Let me know how you get on.

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Social Media Addiction Faced – Detox The Only Answer

My eyes have fully opened recently to the extent of addiction in myself and society generally. Of course addiction is a problem for most societies, but usually the addiction only holds a small minority captive. This time, however, it appears to have the majority of society held by the addictive mechanism and pretty much completely unaware of.

What is it? Yup, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram – It’s called Social Media only it’s not very social.

check-facebookIt’s a revolution folks, a revolution of the way we react and interact. In the last 10 years the way we do EVERYTHING has changed fundamentally, and that means we have had no real time to adjust either mentally or, more to the point, emotionally. The tsunami of social media interaction has begun to define our lives. And short of a total meltdown of the internet or a collapse of society, the tsunami has only just begun.

Statistics reveal that cell phone use and web use generally increased enormously from 2014. Check this to see what Im talking about!
http://www.internetlivestats.com/watch/internet-users/

Some statistics: Around 40% of the world population has an internet connection today. In 1995, it was less than 1%.
The number of internet users has increased tenfold from 1999 to 2013.
The first billion was reached in 2005. The second billion in 2010. The third billion in 2014.

facebook-addictBut the statistics are one thing. The anecdotal, visual evidence, is more distressing and alarming.

Look around at your friends, your kids, maybe even your parents, look in the malls, or on public transport, and then take a deep and honest look inside yourself and see if you are really any different from any of them. ADDICTION IS NOT ON AND OFF. It’s not a switch that is either up, meaning not addicted, or down, meaning addicted. Oh no. Addiction is all about degrees and measures. Addiction is wrapped up with necessity and habit, with social conditioning and deeply held human issues rooted in our ancestral dna, and stuff about the herd mentality and ancient tribal behaviour demanded by sheer survival.

Check whether this list includes anything you do.
http://www.hongkiat.com/blog/facebook-addiction-signs/

Almost everyone is addicted to something, even if its just in some small way. It may be subtle, or it may be all consuming, but its there. It may not interfere with healthy functioning, but its there, and its something that pulls at us if we don’t do it habitually. It may not be that destructive to our life, well being, relationships, work and so on but there it is.

WISDOM AND ADDICTION ARE LIKE OIL AND WATER.

I think the sooner we recognise that addictive impulse in ourselves and where it lives, in what dark corner it hides, and, most importantly, what purpose is it serving, the more we can understand ourselves and transcend the torment of our addictions. Because the nature of addiction is unconscious and denied. And it ALWAYS serves a purpose, always it offers us the carrot of salvation from our suffering. It always offers us love. But addiction itself is a highly powerful force. Even more than the object of ones addiction is the ADDICTION. It is a mechanism, a highly powerful shadowy mechanism that thrives on darkness and fear.

Because addiction is so closely linked to our basic existential nature it is intertwined with the two base forces of love and fear.

Maybe addiction is the unconscious human answer to separation syndrome. Thats why addiction is essentially a spiritual phenomena.

The answer to addiction is waking up to the truth of who you are. The answer to all addiction is love and inner authority. To overcome addiction, as well as the physical component, one must fall in love with oneself, show up, tell the truth, see where you hide from fear and what you are afraid of, and then chose to love yourself. The answer to addiction is love and connection, but that connection is to yourself and the world.

POWER.

Anything less than your full power released into the world could result in the activation of this addiction mechanism. It may protect you for a while. But it will eat you in the end. It is voracious and hungry.

So let us return to the issue in hand. The modern cultural acceptable addiction. Social media.
Head down, buried in the screen, totally distracted, emotionally dependent on ‘likes’, comments, notifications, increasing friends lists, etc etc we disappear from awareness and presence into the world of the mind through the screen and down the rabbit hole.

We check our phones at least 150 times a day, many of us, so I worked out that on average that means every 6 minutes or so. And it is increasing.

If it affects you, if you keep checking your phone, inbox, social media, even when there is no real reason, then I’m afraid you are in the modern matrix. And the matrix has you.

I know because I have been in the matrix also. I was completely convinced I was acting from real freedom and just exercising my freedoms and really enjoying all my friends and contacts and likes etc. But the truth was that the walls of my prison had changed and got smaller. They built the prison around me while I was distracted by content.

BOILING THE FROG.
6a00d8341c3e6353ef00e551d211f38834-800wiMany of us have been led, innocently, to the pot on the stove and have been boiled, so slowly we have not noticed. These giant social media corporations hire well qualified, highly professional psychologists and marketers to investigate you and me and to work out how to get us to do what they want, willingly and blindly, as though we were free.

They know your habits, your preferences, your likes, dislikes they know how long you do something and they know what you don’t like. Between your phone stats, your Facebook analytics, google and amazon they know you better than you know yourself. You have an online profile that informs social media and they promote and market to accordingly. They feed you what you want, even if you don’t know what you want.

It is that scary. And you don’t even realise, because they have offset their activities with your rewards. Those rewards are (the illusion of) connection, being liked, importance, information, and power.

Don’t buy any of it because its not real.

I quit Facebook and Twitter very recently and I am feeling the effects of the withdrawal. Some parts of life have been rendered meaningless.  Where is the instant gratification of a new like? Where is the surfing new posts to give me some distraction? Where is the relief I get every day, relief from the truth of my own life?

Gone…Facebook shut down and Twitter deactivated. It feels powerful, detoxing and vulnerable….Do it…try it out, inquire, investigate, tell the truth.
And comment here…Its the only place you will find me..

The Matrix has you…..and at some point you have to make a decision..
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What Creates Wellbeing? Food or Feelings?

What is it that causes health and wellbeing?

What is it that restores health and wellbeing when it is lost?

Is it what we do with the body – meaning what we put in, or don’t put in, and whether we exercise it or not?

I have been reminded of these questions by a Facebook friend earlier today.
I had said something in response to a picture of a cake stand loaded with sweet, wheat filled cakes, I think it was,’ recipe-image-legacy-id--1273545_8Dangerous cakes.’

Well a friend responded, ‘What is wrong with cakes, I am the fittest and healthiest person I know and I love a cake now and then?’

And it set me to thinking. And here are some of my thoughts.

I know the person who asked that leading question, and I know he is very healthy and fit and so on. But I also know his wellbeing arises because of love and joy, a vibrant and varied lifestyle, lots of refreshing sun, and a great sense of purpose in the world. His life seems afire with enthusiasm and vibrancy.

Thats the kind of thing that creates wellbeing and great health.

And under those circumstances a cake now and then doesn’t mean a thing.

It’s got nothing to do with the cake and everything to do with the cake eater.
To him, and his fabulous wife, the cake is a treat to be enjoyed and savoured.
I doubt they eat cake all the time.
But to many other people the cake means something very different.

To the person who doesn’t have love or joy, lives a sedentary life, feels somewhat lost, and has little sense of self worth and purpose, the cake could be an invitation to addiction, to greater sadness or self negation.

The cake…and the chocolate…usually the toxic chemical addictive foods…are symbols of how we feel about ourselves.

It is how we feel about ourselves, and about our relationship to other people and the world, that is the issue here, not the food itself.
Of course these foods are addictive, we know that. But why do some people get sucked into the addiction and others dont?
Why doesn’t my friend lose himself in endless cakes?

Cakes, candy bars, drink, even heavy drugs like heroin, are like guns. In some hands they are lethal weapons. In other hands they are harmless and inert.

It’s all about the user. And it is all about the consciousness of the user, and how well they know and love themselves.

So when we are looking at recovery from illness, or being truly well, we have to look much further than just food.

The truth is it is all energy in vibration. The body, emotions, mind, spirit, all of it just different levels and frequency vibrations.

shutterstock_138284549Positive, affirming, loving and joyous thoughts, feeling and sensations have a huge positive impact on the more dense aspects of being, including the body.
And equally, hate, fear, stress, anxiety and depression have a destructive and debilitating effect on the cellular body.

The positive feelings and thoughts vibrate higher than the negative ones. Research tells us this, and it is self evidently true.
The higher vibrational thoughts and feelings seem to create movement and flow. They break up stuckness and blockages.

It has been found that laughter itself is an incredible tool for healing.

So really, as always with blogs I write, the call is always to look within at what, if anything, is blocking this joy, laughter, love and purpose from vibrating through you? Whether you are ill or not, doesn’t matter.

What matters is to consciously attend to those things inside the mind and emotions that may create these blockages and lead us down the rocky road of addiction and self negation. I have been there, as many people have, and it’s not a happy road. It’s a tortuous path of increasing destruction for self, family and friends. 

I clawed my way out and transformed all that negativity to love. And my life is utterly and totally different because of it.

The way out is always available.

Thanks for reading!!

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Live As If Anything Is Possible

miracle-growThe body is one of life’s mysteries. In fact a human being, itself, is still one of the greatest mysteries of the entire universe as we understand it.
And don’t think for one minute we have solved the mystery of human, or the mystery of mind, or body.
We haven’t, and we are a long way from understanding these things.
We scratch the surface and pretend we are authorities on life. But we really are not.
We have solved many riddles and probed deeper and deeper into how we work, and how manifestation works, but there are always new revelations and ever new wonders.
 
Ultimately life itself is a mystery that will probably never be solved.
 
The reason I’m saying this is to encourage you to see that ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE.
We really don’t know the purpose of all this. We cannot be certain. And if we can’t be certain, it means anything is possible.
For example, on a basic level, when I was diagnosed with Inflammatory Bowel Disease, I remember well the day I went to see the consultant. He was absolutely resolute and utterly convinced of his own knowledge (he was a professional!) and wanted to convince me that no one ever could or can heal, cure or successfuly overcome IBD. I doubted his truth, and decided to go on my own journey to find out. He presented me with a reality he believed in, but I chose not to believe it and decided to leave myself open to the mystery of life.
In truth, I didn’t know whether I could heal or not, I had no information or experience.
But I was up for the challenge.
I do not accept some else’s version of ‘reality’ when I know that they simply cannot know 100% that they are right.
 
My logic was, even if one or two people have healed from this set of symptoms, it indicates that something is possible.
If placebo happens, and it does, and if miracles happen, and they do, then it PROVES that nothing is as certain as they suggest.
THAT IS LOGIC.
 
As it transpires, I was right. I never went back to see him and healed what was, and is, considered un-healable.
And my story is repeated by thousands, probably millions of people who have made choices that defy the perennial view of reality.
We are the hero’s and heroines of a new reality. When you defy the perennial view of reality you are forging new territory, breaking new ground. And like all pioneers, going into new territory is tough and challenging.
 
If there is a calling in your heart, listen to it, serve it, respond to it.
If it’s not there, there is no problem.
If there is a calling in your heart that whispers to you, and tells you to go on the healing journey, listen to it!
It could be your soul calling.
If your soul doesn’t call you, it’s not your time.
You will never heal if your call is coming from resentment or the voice of ‘I should.’
I tried to give up addictions in my life a few times. I tried to give up smoking many times because I thought I should. each time I failed and returned (happily) to my habit. The final time of giving up was totally different. There was no question around it. There was no doubt about it. Of course there were the withdrawals and the desires, but they never touched  me, because the call to let go of this addiction came from a different place, it came from realising that I was not loving myself by doing it, and that addiction was a form of self hate. I didn’t actually give up at that stage, it just fell away as no longer useful or element to my life.
I had moved to a higher plane of my existence.
13-09-25-connecting-with-the-perfect-realitySo choosing the healing path has to be genuine. You can cultivate this genuine desire, but the seed has to be there for you to water it and feed it. No seed, no transformation. You cannot grow a tree unless there is a seed to start it off.
And what I’m saying is not just about healing illness. It’s about any kind of transformation, spiritual searching, anything that involves a challenge to your belief systems, those beliefs systems of people around you, and the prevailing belief systems of society.
The seed is your calling. There in your soul, like a whisper in the dark night, beckoning you toward it. It’s a light that is easily ignored. But it never goes out. We just don’t see it.
I am encouraging you to see it, and turn around and face it.
And walk towards it.
And dive into it.
And burn all falseness away.
And become transformed.
And live in a new, miraculous way.
love-in-fireYou have that power. There is no point in denying it.
The power, the voice, the calling, all these lie dormant and latent in each human being.
There is no preferential treatment when it comes to this.
Everyone has the same latent potential to respond to their soul’s calling.
Thanks for reading!
 
 
 
 
 

The Ah Ha! Moment and Healing Dis-ease

Today’s blog is so important it’s incredible that I haven’t written about it before. Because of my history of healing illness I have become accustomed to this investigation and take it for granted.

But I know a lot of people, most in fact, don’t do this, don’t want to do it, or don’t know how to do it.
I presume in many ways it’s simply that people don’t know the benefits of this level of responsibility and are also so busy with their lives that they don’t have time, or even interest in it.

What am I talking about?

ingredientdetectivebI am talking specifically about becoming an open investigator of your illness, and its connection to your life, beliefs, thoughts, emotions and circumstances, even your karma, astrology and genetic predisposition.

It doesn’t sound like a big deal but this one thing can be the difference between healing and not healing, or transforming or not transforming.
Because, you see, for me, illness is always a calling to transformation of some sort. Illness is always calling us to change something. And I am talking mostly about the chronic illnesses that are running rampant across the world.

In my own life I have explored this area extensively. When the first symptoms of what they finally called ‘Ulcerative Colitis’ emerged in 2004 one of the first things I did was type them into a rather prehistoric google. It was pretty basic even then. But I got the shock of my life when I saw the horror my symptoms suggested, all involving a nightmare of treatment and inevitable death. Once I got past the shock I kept going, and have kept going ever since.

I investigate, and I inquire to see how investigations ‘feel.’ Illness, in my experience, does not necessarily have one cause. It’s a conspiration of things that result in this symptomology that we respond to. Particularly with chronic disease, which has been slowly building for many years under the surface, there are going to be many aspects, many components that have arisen as this one thing, our symptom.

And we respond to this symptom as though it was singular and we can simply treat it singularly, either with a medication or a vitamin, mineral or food. And while that may be kind of true-ish, its not really true, as anyone who has healed their illness will testify.

You don’t heal unless you explore your illness on all levels of being, and you treat it in a number of ways. Thats just the way it is.

It is designed to wake you up, and part of that waking up is to become empowered and knowledgable.
That knowledge is both knowledge of the world and what might be contributing to your illness on the causative level, and knowledge of your self.

This connection between the two is where you start to see patterns in your life, patterns in how your body reacts, patterns of hidden beliefs that might not be beneficial to you. I’m talking about core beliefs, because core beliefs are the ones that really run the show physically. Your core beliefs and your immune system, nervous system, and all other unconscious physical actions, are inherently hard wired together. They are symbiotic in their relationship, an action in one does not always cause an action in the other, but there is a profound relationship between them.

If you have core wound issues, and its almost certain that, if you are ill, addicted, depressed, or lost, you have, they will absolutely definitely be affecting your autonomic systems. I can testify to this myself and have made the connection. When I did make the connection and saw how I was contributing to my own downfall, not just physically but psychically, psychologically and emotionally, it changed everything for me. I became a master of myself and my system. It didn’t mean I healed in an instant, no miracles took place, but it meant I had a deeper understanding of myself, and that meant I could dig ever deeper, forgive and let go, and relax all tension and anxiety, fear and anger.

iStock_000016297924XSmallDo not under estimate the power of epiphany in healing. Epiphany is what some people describe these days as an ‘Ah Ha!’ moment. It is that moment when things that have seemed separate and unrelated suddenly join together and make total sense. It is as though you suddenly see the picture that was obscured until that moment.

It is my firm belief that this Ah Ha! moment is key to healing, at least to healing the disassociated mind and its errant beliefs. It is my belief that this moment has the capacity to kick start an energetic flow previously locked up and dormant. It is as though the dam wall has been smashed and the water is allowed to flow, and the water flows and floods the whole valley, bringing nourishment to what was previously dry and barren.

And of course if this epiphany is not followed by action it will be rendered ineffective. Its the same with spiritual epiphany. If its not lived in the body (called embodiment) it remains a mental abstraction and is ultimately useless. These realisations need to penetrate the cells of the body to bring them fully to life.

None of this is likely to happen unless you are prepared to inquire, investigate and learn. the path of learning is fraught with pot holes. 9 times out of 10 your inquiry might lead nowhere. But this is the truth. If you keep on going, the 1 time out of the 10 that you do make it will be worth all other failures…guaranteed. Something happens when you keep going, when you persist, when you deepen and maintain your search.

In my coaching we are looking for this Ah Ha moment, what I call epiphany of understanding. It’s that important, and important in all areas of life, whether its relationship, work, purpose, creativity or anything, and it doesn’t happen without investigation.

Thanks for reading, have a great investigative day!

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Chronic Illness Offers the Power of Transformation

Im sure you’ve noticed it. in fact it might be you who experiences it. If not I can guarantee its in your family somewhere, or your friends, or work colleagues. What is it?
Of course you guessed it. Chronic Disease.
Its everywhere folks, like a modern scourge of humanity.
And, whilst one associates chronic disease with the elderly, its a scourge that now affects all ages, all social strata, and all colour and sex.

I lost my mother and father to chronic disease. My mother had rheumatoid arthritis terribly and died of the effects of the medication. My father succumbed to cancer. My brother has carried the emotional wounds of childhood around his whole life and never dealt with them, and they are killing him slowly but surely.
And I myself developed (if thats the right word) Inflammatory Bowel Disease in 2004 after a life of toxic hedonism and emotional dysfunctionality. So I know something of what I’m saying.
Thats my whole family.

It was only because I was so prepared to sit up and take notice, and address ALL the factors that contributed to the disease, that I have been able to get this far in my healing. If I had fallen short, or been too reluctant, or scared, or if I had not been prepared to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to heal I doubt I would have recovered.

And here is the main point of my writing this blog today.

I see clients, friends, and people who I just meet, who want the quick fix, magic bullet, ‘someone just tell me what to do,’ approach to whatever they are suffering from. That may work for some people, but honestly not that many.
Because the symptoms of this chronic illness are the messengers the body is sending to you saying,’ We need to address the situation and make some changes, very very soon.’ Those messages will increase in intensity until you do something about it, or until you take the medication that completely hides the message.

You may well try the ‘shoot the messenger’ approach but the long term impact of not making changes can be disastrous.

In so many chronic conditions, what we can’t accept and don’t want to hear is, ‘We caused this ourselves.’ We want to hear it has come from some mysterious place outside us, and we are victims of this terrible thing. And I know sometimes this is the case, I really accept that. BUT I am talking about all the other ones. I am going to say it boldly to make the point.

It may well be that you, or whoever we are talking about, actually caused this condition.

Ouch! I am sorry. But here is the most important point. That sentence, and the understanding that it had something to do with you actually gives you a lot of power.
From suddenly being the victim of this terrible thing you have the opportunity to face it and take responsibility for it.
Of course in realising you, your choices, your lifestyle, beliefs and traumas, played a big part in your disease, it can render you feeling guilty and ashamed, and you can slip into feelings of self pity.

But I am offering you a very different approach. I am saying that by seeing the part you have played in your condition and the demand of the body to face it, you have the opportunity to make dramatic and profound changes that will improve the quality of your whole life in ways you cannot yet imagine. Yes, its tough. Yes, you have to really dig deep. Yes, you have to face your addictions, and the emotional wounds behind the addictions. But it will forge you into a warrior, open your heart and change your relationship with yourself, others and the world.

Im sick of this ‘powerlessness’ that we are suffering from. It needs our attention. Health, illness, wellbeing is one of the modern plagues that is arising in the world at this time because we need to address our relationship to our own bodies and the body of the world, the earth. They are the same thing.

We are stronger than we imagine. But we are badly trained. Lets change this powerlessness by taking responsibility, once and for all.

Chronic Illness is a Holistic Invitation.

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Eating is a Dance with the Devil of Addiction – 6 Minutes about Food Issues

Addiction is emotional, it is connected to our beliefs, and to that which is unresolved within ourselves.

Put that mechanism together with a manipulative and greedy corporate monster who consciously makes food addictive and you have big big problems for individuals and society.

Its a society that creates addicts, supports their habits, and lives off the profit in any way it can.

The only way to not become a slave to addiction and corporate manipulation is to resolve the addictive mechanism itself.
The issue is not in the end result addiction. It is not so much what you are addicted to that matters (it matters but not as much as we imagine) but the actual addictive mechanism itself.

What is disharmonious within you? What is unloved within you? What is the emptiness that needs filling? What is it that needs protecting?
Present day addiction has all it’s roots in past trauma and hurt. If you want relief from the addiction you will have to attend to the roots, heal them and nourish them.
And in these days of highly addictive food availability, foods that cause dis-ease and inner destruction, addictions are one of the biggest obstacles to deal with.

I have been through addiction. First it was cigarettes, and drugs, and then a serious relationship with alcohol. That was resolved over a long period of time and now I can have a drink if I want one, but I don’t like what it does so I will only ever have one. I don’t like the feeling I used to love. When I stopped the alcohol I immediately shifted into the sugar foods, and particularly the chocolates, the unhealthy ones. I was eating three candy bars at a time, as many starchy vegetables, grains and as much coffee as I dared.

Mung Soup for the SoulIt’s easy to substitute one addiction for another. Sure it might not be cocaine, or alcohol, but food is gonna kill you as well as drinking, just more slowly.

And then when I got sick eventually I had to meet, not only the food choices I was making, but also the ADDICTIVE MECHANISM ITSELF.
What was causing me to constantly want foods that comforted me?
What was at the root of this addiction? So I searched within my past and found where I had felt abandoned by life, by my Mother, and my father, by God, by innocence.
I found where I had been wounded and wanted love, and I learned to see how those feelings were playing themselves out in my food habits, and relationships with other people.
And I began healing them all, both in consciously making new choices that physically eased the feelings and stopped the constant blood sugar spiking. And through awareness, self love and conscious inquiry I saw where I reached for comfort to avoid discomfort, over and over again.

And now there is no addiction, or maybe a 1% addictive mechanism. I have to say I have eliminated the sugar and high carbohydrates from the diet and eat an exclusively anti-inflammatory diet, which really helps. Attending to this from both the food choice angle, AND the emotional, mental, spiritual angle, really helps..Thats what brings change.

This 6 minutes is about that. Its a clip from my longer podcast about the whole journey of getting holistic.

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Thanks!