A Fundamental Error in Health, Healing and the Body.

Our number one fundamental error when it comes to health and healing, wellbeing, illness and even our approach to the body itself, is this:

We assume all our answers are going to be found on the linear level of reality. We are so embedded in this causal reality with all its rules that we are unable to traverse the mysterious inner world where everything is interconnected and changeable, where matter and consciousness blend into the same thing and, ultimately, where there is no ‘real world,’ only consciousness.

When we allow ourselves to entertain new possibilities and new explorations, and we dive into the murky world of emotions, into the prison of conditioned thinking and beliefs, into our cultural conditioning itself, and even further into the nature of reality, we open the door to all kinds of awareness and insights, into a whole new vista of previously unexplored potential.

And that potential is packed with transformational energy. That potential is the potential of miracles and spontaneous healing.
Thats pretty much the only way we can access the doorway.

THINK BEYOND THE BOX.

Most people either don’t want to or simply can’t get far enough beyond the ‘in the box’ thinking for them to imagine other realities or possibilities. But that is really what we must do in order to transform or heal.

HOW?

First you must imagine that it is possible. It must enter your world through the imagination. Imagination opens the door of possibility.

Then you have to explore and experience. You have to meet what you experience openly, and when there is contraction and judgement you must commit to surrendering it. It is a constant deepening, a voyage to the centre of life. A journey into the heart of darkness. The gifts are incalculable. Sometimes miraculous.

You must persist beyond your comfort zone and break out.  Willingness itself makes this possible.

Sometimes you need someone to guide you and assist the journey.

Thats what I do.

 

Podcast – Finding the Natural Way of Being and Living

Kavi shares his personal insights gathered from years of illness and healing, dysfunctional living and spiritual seeking.

This is an inspirational podcast inviting listeners to find ‘The Natural Way,’ which is the Way of the Tao. The effortless and peaceful way.

We have moved far away from our innately natural way of being, and even now consider such a way a ‘doing thing.’ But this natural way of being is not a doing thing but a state of being that arises when we become more holistically balanced.

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Here it is on Soundcloud:

And the link:
https://soundcloud.com/lifeisjustaride/035-finding-the-natural-way-of-being-and-living-the-peaceful-way

Breathing Under Water, Embracing Difficult Emotions – New Podcast

I am delighted to say my Holistic Podcasts are back!
This one is, I believe, one of my best and most useful to date.
I am covering deep ground here, and I just know it is valuable, whatever your state of health, illness, or mental and emotional situation. 

WE ARE IN SUCH STRESSFUL AND CONFUSING TIMES.

It is easy to get lost in this world. What is true and what is false?
What to believe in?
Everything is mixed up and here is the thing.

The man, or woman, who does not know themselves and live by holistic principles in every day life, is extremely vulnerable to being swept up in the drama, prone to addictions and dysfunctional lifestyle choices.”

We simply have to dive in deep so we can rise high.

Inner mastery creates change, not disembodied theoretical spirituality.
Spirituality is only worthwhile when it is lived in the body. And that journey brings it into everyday reality, which in turn makes it very powerful.
When it is lived.
Holistic Intelligence is not optional in our world. It is a necessity to Transform Society. It IS essential for evolution.
Holism is the practical arm of non duality.

In this podcast I return to discussing the body, emotions, mind and spirit. This is a passionate call to wake up and take responsibility for your inner mastery NOW!

I look around, and have done now in each country I have been to, and I see the same thing everywhere. ‘Normal’ life IS deeply unconscious. I am sorry to say this but its the truth. Most people do not have much awareness of who they are or what they are doing or what is going on. It is disturbing. Don’t let it happen to you.”

Thats what my podcasts are all about.
Here it is on Soundcloud.

And here is the link to iTunes.

Thanks for reading!

How Well Do You Know Your Body?

How Well Do You Know Your Body?

It may seem like an obvious, even stupid, question, but in my experience working with people it is actually a very revealing and provocative one. So let me make some bold statements:

I don’t think a lot of people actually DO know their own bodies very well at all. They think they do but actually they are not very tuned in to what their own body is saying, what messages it is sending, or the bio feedback relationship happening all the time between mind and body.

I also think people are very cut off from their intuition, and intuition itself is located in the gut.

We are living in fast paced, toxic, mind dominated societies that favour caffeine, distraction and urgency, and not relaxation, body centred, natural and harmonious lifestyles.

The amount of addiction, disorder, illness, depression etc etc is a sign that ‘we’ are out of alignment with our selves, and that must also mean with our bodies.

And here is the clincher: A humanity that is out of touch with its own body is undoubtedly going to be out of touch with the earth, because they are one and the same thing.

I see this as a big problem for us all in the west. We just don’t know any more what its like to be in touch. And I certainly don’t just mean men, who have a greater tendency to be cut off from their feelings anyway. I mean all people, all walks of life, all social strata. Everyone. And now we are all disappearing down the rabbit hole of our phones it’s only going to make us more disconnected.

Now here I want to say two things.

  1. Its not a great idea to get too attached to your body, or get too lost in it. Firstly its only a temporary vehicle and its going to go the way of all temporary things and you are going to die.
  2. If you get too lost in it you will become over identified with it and thats going to lead you towards addiction in some way that is not going to make you happy.

The body is, in many ways, a dilemma for us humans. Animals have it much easier than we do. They accept the body they get, they instinctively feed it just enough food to survive and thrive and they don’t get too neurotic over how it looks. They are, by their very nature, body centred. It is all entirely natural.

But we have a choice. And we have an ego that wraps itself around how the body looks and feels. This awareness we have, one of our gifts as conscious beings, is a handicap to easy living when it is affected by damaged conditioning and self worth issues.

So lets cut to the chase of how to go about this relationship.

Firstly, you get to know your own body when you find out who you really are. The body is included in a deep spiritual inquiry. 

The body holds old wounds and traumas. It will hold them forever unless you consciously decide to release them. If you decide to release them you will probably have to find a modality that assists this process. That can be anything from rebirthing to massage, maybe yoga, or dance, or any specific technique that aims to unblock the stuck energy flow in the body. This automatically takes you deeper into your body.

Attending to diet and health, doing some detoxification and cleaning out colon and liver, will help to balance the body mind system and bring you naturally more aligned.

Meditation and getting into nature, watching sunset and sunrise, sitting next to the sea or bids a roaring fire, all help to bring you back into relationship with your own essence, and that means your own body.

Listenting to your body, paying it attention, intuiting it, talking to it, loving it, nurturing it, these are key elements to develop with your body. It will pay great dividends and soften up the whole of you.

The bottom line is: Include your own body in the love you have for things. Don’t exclude your body. Love it with all your heart even though it is not yours and will one day turn to dust. Just love it anyway, with a care and a joy and a freedom that makes it sing and dance and flow.

Thanks for reading!

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Social Media Addiction Faced – Detox The Only Answer

My eyes have fully opened recently to the extent of addiction in myself and society generally. Of course addiction is a problem for most societies, but usually the addiction only holds a small minority captive. This time, however, it appears to have the majority of society held by the addictive mechanism and pretty much completely unaware of.

What is it? Yup, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram – It’s called Social Media only it’s not very social.

check-facebookIt’s a revolution folks, a revolution of the way we react and interact. In the last 10 years the way we do EVERYTHING has changed fundamentally, and that means we have had no real time to adjust either mentally or, more to the point, emotionally. The tsunami of social media interaction has begun to define our lives. And short of a total meltdown of the internet or a collapse of society, the tsunami has only just begun.

Statistics reveal that cell phone use and web use generally increased enormously from 2014. Check this to see what Im talking about!
http://www.internetlivestats.com/watch/internet-users/

Some statistics: Around 40% of the world population has an internet connection today. In 1995, it was less than 1%.
The number of internet users has increased tenfold from 1999 to 2013.
The first billion was reached in 2005. The second billion in 2010. The third billion in 2014.

facebook-addictBut the statistics are one thing. The anecdotal, visual evidence, is more distressing and alarming.

Look around at your friends, your kids, maybe even your parents, look in the malls, or on public transport, and then take a deep and honest look inside yourself and see if you are really any different from any of them. ADDICTION IS NOT ON AND OFF. It’s not a switch that is either up, meaning not addicted, or down, meaning addicted. Oh no. Addiction is all about degrees and measures. Addiction is wrapped up with necessity and habit, with social conditioning and deeply held human issues rooted in our ancestral dna, and stuff about the herd mentality and ancient tribal behaviour demanded by sheer survival.

Check whether this list includes anything you do.
http://www.hongkiat.com/blog/facebook-addiction-signs/

Almost everyone is addicted to something, even if its just in some small way. It may be subtle, or it may be all consuming, but its there. It may not interfere with healthy functioning, but its there, and its something that pulls at us if we don’t do it habitually. It may not be that destructive to our life, well being, relationships, work and so on but there it is.

WISDOM AND ADDICTION ARE LIKE OIL AND WATER.

I think the sooner we recognise that addictive impulse in ourselves and where it lives, in what dark corner it hides, and, most importantly, what purpose is it serving, the more we can understand ourselves and transcend the torment of our addictions. Because the nature of addiction is unconscious and denied. And it ALWAYS serves a purpose, always it offers us the carrot of salvation from our suffering. It always offers us love. But addiction itself is a highly powerful force. Even more than the object of ones addiction is the ADDICTION. It is a mechanism, a highly powerful shadowy mechanism that thrives on darkness and fear.

Because addiction is so closely linked to our basic existential nature it is intertwined with the two base forces of love and fear.

Maybe addiction is the unconscious human answer to separation syndrome. Thats why addiction is essentially a spiritual phenomena.

The answer to addiction is waking up to the truth of who you are. The answer to all addiction is love and inner authority. To overcome addiction, as well as the physical component, one must fall in love with oneself, show up, tell the truth, see where you hide from fear and what you are afraid of, and then chose to love yourself. The answer to addiction is love and connection, but that connection is to yourself and the world.

POWER.

Anything less than your full power released into the world could result in the activation of this addiction mechanism. It may protect you for a while. But it will eat you in the end. It is voracious and hungry.

So let us return to the issue in hand. The modern cultural acceptable addiction. Social media.
Head down, buried in the screen, totally distracted, emotionally dependent on ‘likes’, comments, notifications, increasing friends lists, etc etc we disappear from awareness and presence into the world of the mind through the screen and down the rabbit hole.

We check our phones at least 150 times a day, many of us, so I worked out that on average that means every 6 minutes or so. And it is increasing.

If it affects you, if you keep checking your phone, inbox, social media, even when there is no real reason, then I’m afraid you are in the modern matrix. And the matrix has you.

I know because I have been in the matrix also. I was completely convinced I was acting from real freedom and just exercising my freedoms and really enjoying all my friends and contacts and likes etc. But the truth was that the walls of my prison had changed and got smaller. They built the prison around me while I was distracted by content.

BOILING THE FROG.
6a00d8341c3e6353ef00e551d211f38834-800wiMany of us have been led, innocently, to the pot on the stove and have been boiled, so slowly we have not noticed. These giant social media corporations hire well qualified, highly professional psychologists and marketers to investigate you and me and to work out how to get us to do what they want, willingly and blindly, as though we were free.

They know your habits, your preferences, your likes, dislikes they know how long you do something and they know what you don’t like. Between your phone stats, your Facebook analytics, google and amazon they know you better than you know yourself. You have an online profile that informs social media and they promote and market to accordingly. They feed you what you want, even if you don’t know what you want.

It is that scary. And you don’t even realise, because they have offset their activities with your rewards. Those rewards are (the illusion of) connection, being liked, importance, information, and power.

Don’t buy any of it because its not real.

I quit Facebook and Twitter very recently and I am feeling the effects of the withdrawal. Some parts of life have been rendered meaningless.  Where is the instant gratification of a new like? Where is the surfing new posts to give me some distraction? Where is the relief I get every day, relief from the truth of my own life?

Gone…Facebook shut down and Twitter deactivated. It feels powerful, detoxing and vulnerable….Do it…try it out, inquire, investigate, tell the truth.
And comment here…Its the only place you will find me..

The Matrix has you…..and at some point you have to make a decision..
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Holistic Inquiry – What Is It?

Holistic Inquiry – the Healing of Fragmentation

The process of healing, resolving or removing anything that prevents wholeness.

We are designed for Integration of all parts into the whole. We are a whole system. And yet we live in fragmented ways. Mind is fragmented from body, spirit is fragmented from our life, health is thought of as a purely physical issue and treated accordingly, and emotions are problems that need to be buried.

But inquiry into the truth of us reveals that we are born to be ‘bigger than the sum of our parts.’ When we are integrated, meaning when our apparently separate parts are working harmoniously and healthily, we become greater than we could imagine.

12376456_10153745034952856_8110593313318979093_nHolistic Inquiry is the looking within, into any and all areas of life, to see where the blocks are to this wholeness, and to understanding how everything connects to everything else, and to seeing what, if any, action must be taken to bring integration.

Understanding the holistic nature of your life, specifically how everything you do, think, feel, say, eat and believe affects the entirety of your life, far from confusing you more, actually brings greater clarity, self knowledge and power to you. It often brings an ‘Ah Ha!’ moment.

You might suddenly realise why you have always felt a certain way.
You may understand the flow of your life and why you have ended up in the place you are in.
You may arrive at great compassion and love for yourself.
You might even fall in love with yourself once again.
You will almost definitely increase your self awareness and wisdom.

And that in itself will give you the energy you need to take appropriate action.

The areas of focus:

  • Exploration of emotions.
  • Where love was denied or turned away from in childhood.
  • How trauma lives in the body.
  • Non Duality, the realisation of oneness.
  • The movement of one’s life, understanding the pattern.
  • Lifestyle habits and the addictive mechanism.
  • The power of belief to influence the body, positively and negatively.
  • How we really work, and what drives us. A look under the hood.

After years attending spiritual meetings, from satsangs to meditation camps, I came to see that there has almost always been something missing from many teachings. They are not integrated and so remain as disembodied beliefs. They are true, but not lived in the body and thus not in the life. They are not fully integrated.
The body must be included in our inquiry and our care, not just as a physical machine, but as an expression of beliefs, emotions and consciousness.’

Spiritual truths have to become grounded in body and life. Our foundations must be solid for the temple to be built to withstand the vicissitudes of life.
Look at the ancient health systems of Ayurveda (Indian) and Chinese medicine. The are both holistic systems that include mind, body and spirit. They are essentially integrative holistic systems. And they treat people from that perspective.

0bc4fc1e64b4d5863aa12349a1dc1a95A personal story. During my first Indian Panchakarma treatment in 2005 in the midst of turmoil and feeling like death, I experienced a groundedness and wellbeing that shocked me to the core. I was told that, for the first time in years and years, my doshas (energy systems in the body) were balanced, and that this groundedness was the real me, the natural me. It shocked me and made me a servant of holistic wellbeing for life.

You see not many people are truly themselves. When you are fragmented you may well not feel right, but you don’t know what whole feels like, so you have nothing to aim for. Feeling whole is feeling naturally yourself, without effort and without tension. The feeling is naturally spiritual, naturally emotionally and mentally balanced and clear seeing.

The side benefits to this natural way of being are gratitude, compassion, self love and love of others, increased energy, better and more positive relationships, a feeling of abundance, an increase in personal power, and a discovery of one’s true purpose in life.

Yes, it can be quite profound.

Remember this one thing. Everything is connected to everything else. When you pull on one piece it affects every other area. It is whole and integrated anyway, whether you know it or not. But waking up to this truth and living it as a reality changes everything about your life.

Trauma, conditioning and wounding, live in the body and become the pervading reality of our lives.
We build our lives around our traumas and make them our way of life. In other words we compensate for the traumas that have lodged themselves in our body/mind system. Those times we moved away from innocence, and from love, remain alive in the body, in our lives, until we consciously attend to them. Or they can stay alive below the level of conscious attention and fester for years. Often these ‘locked in’ traumas, places where energy is stuck and not flowing, can become the places where illness and dis-ease begin.

Holistic Inquiry is the process of releasing energy through awareness, dialogue and conscious investigation.

The Five Harmonies:

Body – Where the rubber hits the road.
Emotion – Must flow freely like the river to the Ocean.
Mind – Clear seeing and discerning.
Spirit – Knowing oneself as consciousness.
Environment – In harmony with one’s surroundings.

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Your Wounds Are Your Gifts

pearl-imageYour wounds are the seeds of your liberation.
They are the grit that grows the pearl. Without them there may be no growth, no desire for transformation. We think our wounds and traumas are the worst thing that could have happened to us. But that is only when we deny them and push them away.
Once embraced, however painful and difficult, and then transmuted, they become our gifts. They have become the seeds of our liberation. It all depends how we relate to them.
That is so important when it comes to illness and wellbeing. It can mean a 360 degree turn around in how we relate to our past. And that means how we relate to our present and future.

Now I am not saying ‘Great, you got wounds and traumas!’ But I am saying accept what is, what has happened, and turn the base material into gold. BE ALCHEMICAL ABOUT IT.

In fact, become an alchemist. When you become alchemical about it, you automatically rise above your experiences and, instead of keeping you locked in a prison, they begin to liberate you.

When wounds, traumas and old hurts are trapped and resisted, they create big issues in the whole of our life. From the way we experience our body, to our relationships, and to our activity in the world.

Truth is that old wounds, particularly those ones from childhood, dictate the trajectory of our lives, our relationships and our health. WOW! That is how powerful they are. And left festering inside, unembraced, they seriously exude toxic power.

But equally, when embraced and resolved, when transformed, they can elevate us, heal us, and be the rocket fuel for our purpose and passion in the world. 

The final chapter of my book (The Power of Illness to Change Your Life) is called ‘ARISE WOUNDED HEALER,’ and in it I discuss just how our wounds can not only change our lives but bring us to our purpose for living. The idea of the wounded healer is not new, it is ancient and mythological, and it connects us with the gods. 

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Consider this. You have wounds and traumas. They are very painful and seem to ‘get in the way’ of your life. But you receive information from a wisdom teacher that those very wounds are your gifts, your blessings, your very humanity lies in those experiences. They are the things that carve you and forge you into who you are. 

If you knew that to be true what would you change? Would it change your relationship to your past? Would it give you the energy and incentive to transform your relationship with what happened?

Well it is the truth. I know, I have been through this fire of ‘wounds transformed’ and I can testify to its utter truth.

Good luck!