Facebook Detox Day 3 – Liberated so quickly

Liberated so quickly from the constant itching, the constant checking, the constant commenting, the endless posting..Phew it feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders..

Saturday is a day when I used to always surf Facebook..I wouldn’t do much work on a Saturday apart from the Farm I am part of, but still I would sit down at the computer for hours just doing Facebook. So today I said no…just no…And consequently I have no real reason to sit at the computer. I will do this post and then go..Which will then lead me to a question. If I’m not surfing Facebook and hanging out then ..WHAT AM I DOING?  How am I spending my time?Now this question might not be important to you but it is to me. I want to know what I’m doing and why I’m doing it. I’m not becoming more neurotic by doing this, believe me, I’m becoming less neurotic…

I know most of you will think ‘What’s the problem, just chill out’ ?
But some of us are more prone to habitual behaviour than others. I am addressing those people, and I am reliably informed that thousands, if not millions of people out there have a similar issue.
It’s a modern malady but an old old problem. It’s the same old addictive response manifesting in the modern way.

Social Media Dependency I call it, and it’s a problem that is set to grow. It has all the old familiar hallmarks of addiction.
1. It demands constant attention, and unless that demand is fed it leads to feelings of alienation and withdrawal.2. Collusion. No-one in your social group will step out of line and say derogatory things about FB. It’s the same as drinking, no-one in a social group wants to be the one to say ‘I’m going home or I think I’ve got a problem’ so the problem just persists.
3. It is in someone’s interests for you to continue being addicted, so they are forever creating new ways of keeping you hooked. (Changing layouts, adding new widgets and buttons, comment features etc)
4. Unless you are shrewd or clever, it really doesnt add very much to your life except make you feel occasionally important and valued, and feel like you belong somewhere, like you are part of something.

I realize that some people find great value, great solace, great comfort in Facebook etc. Of course there are exceptions and that’s fantastic I applaud them, but I am really talking not to those people, but to the one’s who resonate with what I’m saying. You will know if it’s you..If it’s not you then carry one.
But if it is you, or you think it may be you..Then I would encourage you to take the experiment..FACEBOOK DETOX 7 DAYS. Keep Facebook closed for 7 days. No peeking, no posting. You can check business pages from the phone but NO VISITS TO THE PROFILE PAGE..You can receive messages via messenger on the phone and that’s it.
Contemplate how it feels during the process, watch your habitual push and pull towards Facebook. It may surprise you how much more time you have if you take it out of the picture. It may surprise you to find that you can focus on what you are doing much more. Your moods might stabilize somewhat….Or of course you may find no change whatsoever…
It’s all a game, we are just learning how to play it…Have a great day on it or off it!!

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Facebook and Social Media Detox

I am pleased and empowered to announce I am experimenting with a detox from the highly addictive drug of the moment...Facebook!
I have been a Social Media user for many years, since I first discovered MySpace as a musician almost 10 years ago. I jumped from My Space to Facebook 5 years ago and have not looked back. I now run 12 pages, ( Recipes for the Divine Kitchen, Music for Lightworkers, Raw Food Video Channel, Kavi Rawk Star, etc etc) most of them are very active and inspired. My friends page is a hub of conversation and inspiration, and I have made some wonderful friends and global connections.

Well what is wrong then ? I hear you say.
Facebook is so interactive, so influential and so instant it is overwhelming. Being open to so much influence has it’s assets but it also has it’s drawbacks. You have to manage it. For those that are focused and ‘page’ oriented, who have a mission in the world, whether that is business or spiritual, Facebook serves as a vehicle for the transmitting of information. For many other people it can be a way to share ideas, explore diversity and learn. And for others it can be a way of expressing opinions..It’s all ok UNTIL it reaches overwhelm, or until it reaches the point where it’s not serving you any more..That is Addiction. And only a critical and ruthlessly honest exploration can see this.

Everything has it’s time, and life comes in waves. It is not that there is a wrong and a right. It’s all about timing, and my timing is NOW!
So I am on Facebook Detox. I have left my email and website details on my pages and profile so people can get hold of me. I am going to post here on this website blog every so often, and I may even drop in every now and again just to have a look..It’s not about going ‘ Cold Turkeyit’s about regaining my inner authority and doing what I want without too much outer influence.

I have got so many things to do I need to focus, and distraction isn’t working for me any more. So there we are, we shall see what happens. I’m open to any outcome.

To all my friends who read this, please keep interacting with me somehow. This website is very active. Email. Skype name is kavijezziehockaday, message me through Facebook and I receive them on my phone.

I will post frequently and I hope inspiringly..

Be well..Kavi Jezzie Hockaday

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